"It is reality that awakens possibilities, and nothing would be more perverse than to deny it. Even so, it will always be the same possibilities, either in sum or on the average, that go on repeating themselves until a man comes along who does not value the actuality over the idea. It is he who first gives the new possibilities their meaning, their directions, and he awakens them."
- Robert Musil, The Man Without Qualities
"The truth will set you free. But not until it is done with you."
- David Foster Wallace
When we talk of complexity and the limits of our understanding, most of us think of the universe, maybe the economy (lately, anyway), and some of us think of human nature generally (or the human heart, poetically). But I think that it is our sexuality that will remain, after we’ve figured out a unifying theory of everything in physics, the last great mystery, too complex and opaque for us to unravel, too wrapped in emotion and conflict and conflict for us to contemplate dispassionately.